You may have trouble coping with the emotions of others. This is very common. Just as you have strong feelings about cancer, your family or friends will react to it as well. For instance, your friends or family may:

• hide or deny their sad feelings
• find someone to blame for your cancer
• change the subject when someone talks about cancer
• act mad for no real reason
• make jokes about cancer
• pretend to be cheerful all the time
• avoid talking about your cancer
• stay away from you, or keep their visits short

The people close to you might be tempted to stay away from you for a period of time, while they “sort out” their feelings and fears. They may be struggling with a sense of helplessness. Be patient if you can. The passage of time and honest talks with each other usually improve the situation.